This will be kinda short.
I don’t watch BET. I refuse to watch Black Embarrassing Television (I may make that a post later). However, with the internet, people talk about the shows on there repeatedly. You don’t even have to visit the black media-oriented blogs to hear about it (I’ve heard about the shows on a couple IR fic themed messageboards). One show in particular is about Toya & Tiny.
Toya is Antonia Carter, ex-wife of STD riddled Lil Wayne. Tiny is the wifey of TI. I’m not defending either of them with this post but I’m making a comparison.
Toya’s the ex-wife of Lil Wayne. They were legally married and are now legally divorced. They have a 10 year old daughter, born while they were teens. She still uses Lil Wayne’s last name and I believe she receives child support and alimony.
Tiny is the wifey/baby momma of TI. She gave birth to two of his sons, lives with him in one of his homes. Yes, she made her own money as a member of Xscape but TI is worth more now than he was when they first got together.
From what I know of their show, both don’t look that good but Toya Carter, even as an ex-wife, is in a better spot than Tiny. Her daughter, even though born before marriage, was legitimized by her parents’ marriage. There’s no doubt who her parents are. Even though Lil Wayne, after his divorce, is busy making lots of lil illegitimate children, she’s the prized one out of his children. Something can happen to Lil Wayne but Reginae, since her mother was married to Lil Wayne, will have an easier time gaining an inheritance than her half-siblings. Toya’s alimony would be affected but her child would pretty much be set.
TI has talked about Tiny as his number one but he’s never even publically talked about marrying her. He’s in jail but he didn’t even marry her before that. They have two children but if something happens to TI and he dies, Tiny has to go to court to prove that her children are his before she can even fight for part of his estate. Given that he has at least 6+ kids, that’ll be a dirty fight. If TI was to become incapacitated, Tiny wouldn’t be able to do anything because as “wifey,” she has none of the legal rights of a wife in those matters.
Lil Wayne and TI are both DBRs in my opinion and my opinions aren’t high for either Toya or Tiny. But Toya was married to Lil Wayne and her daughter’s future is secure. Tiny and her children’s are precarious because if something happens, they are in the cold.
Never let yourself just become the “wifey” instead of a wife. If a man really values you as a wife, he’ll marry you. If he thinks you’re a “wifey,” you’re just playing wife until he finds another woman to make his wife or to play wifey in your place.
That article was the truth!! If I’ve learned nothing else about men, I’ve learned that they’re gonna get theirs; we’ve got to start getting ours.
Comment by Miss V — October 9, 2009 @ 2:00 pm
That’s true. Men will use us if we let them to get their ends and spit us out. We have to do for ourselves.
Comment by timetokeepitreal — October 9, 2009 @ 7:31 pm